There is a profound difference between responding and reacting, but the difference might not be immediately apparent. Reacting is a reflex, like a knee jerk. Responding is a well thought-out action. All of us have a host of external influences over which we have little to no control over. Traffic jams, rude people, unexpected bills, troubles at work, and the list goes on. The good news is that we can choose how to respond to uncontrollable events.
If I am being bumped and shoved on the bus, I can react with annoyance, or I can respond by moving to another area of the bus, or by taking a less crowded one. I cannot always choose the circumstances of my life, but I can choose how I respond. And when I respond, instead of react, I feel a greater sense of control – over my own emotions and actions.
By being in control, I have an opportunity to reflect and assess. How do I feel about this? Why? With such insight, I can let go of negative emotions and move forward in life.
When you feel overwhelmed or bother by situations in life, it can help to make a list of what’s bothering you. Ask yourself what your reaction was to the event. Why do you instinctively react that way? What would be an appropriate response?
By making a list you can help yourself become more aware of what is happening around you. That awareness can help you change the way you deal with situations. You can learn to respond appropriately.
